Dragon's Roost

In-System Relationship Promptlist

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This is a promptlist for in-system relationships. It includes all kinds of relationships; romantic, sexual/FWB, kink, QPR, etc. We have compiled this promptlist from questions asked in Otherconnect and Othercon 2026; special thanks to everyone who contributed to this question list!

This can be used for a bingo sheet, ask game, 30 day prompt challenge, etc. It also has enough prompts that any questions that do not apply/one does not want to answer you can omit. Questions have been numbered and emoji-ed for easy ask game copy-pasting, and sectioned into focus type so that ones of relationship types that do not apply/do apply can be added/subtracted easily.

Feel free to copy parts elsewhere to use! We reccomend you link back here though so others can find the full list.

Posted: 9/02/2026

❤️ General:

Draw relationship chart to the comfort level of those described that shows the different relationships in your system.
Do any of you have attractions/preferences different for in-system vs out of system?
Are there relationships that any of you would have in-system that you would not have out of system or vice versa?
Do any of you consider yourself(ves) to only be attracted to those in your system? Would you consider this to be an orientation, paraphillia, or something else? Why or why not?
What is the longest relationship in your system? What is the newest?
When any of you want physical contact with your in-system partner(s), what do you do instead?
If your system has a headspace, is there anything about the way it functions/its physics that any of you use to your advantage in your relationship?
How do you spend time with your partners in-system? What activities do you do together, both in-world and out-world?
What is your opinion on the term 'syscest' (both as a fiction category and as a way to refer to in-system relationships generally) and would you consider in-system relationships to be a form of 'selfcest' for your system? Why or why not?
Has your system encountered prejudice for in-system relationships? How has this effected you and your relationships?
How do any of you adapt outworld activities like dates or kink scenes which use phsycial experiences to an internal relationship? Do you keep it imaginary, or do you do something in the outworld?
Does anyone in the system have a relationship that could not work out of system? How would it fail without being in the same body?
Do you have any meatspace signifiers for in-system relationships? ie: rings, bracelets, necklaces, collars, tattoos, etc
Does your system have specific out-world objects (sexual or otherwise) that are treated as being part of a specific system member? How are these used in the context of your relationship? Would you consider using a physical object this way if you do not already? Why or why not?
How does your system handle thoughtleak ('overhearing' the thoughts and feelings of others in the system) about private things?
Have any of you ever had to have an awkward conversation with another system member about thoughts you were having spawned from attraction/desire? How did you resolve the situation?
Does your system have trends in your preferences and interests in this regard? Do any of you hold any particular theories for why that is?
Does your system have any relationships where the individuals have incompatible orientations/genders usually? (ex a gay man and a lesbian in a relationship together) Do they consider each other exceptions? Do they think they would be in a relationship if they were not sharing a body?
For systems with different orentations depending on different system members, what does it feel like to have or not have attraction to different groups than others in the system?
Has a relationship in your system ever broken up/ended? What was the fallout and did it impede your system's functioning?
Has your system ever had an in-system relationship that was abusive? What do you think are good warning signs or examples of in-system abuse? What do you think are green flags that a relationship is healthy instead?
What terms do those in your system prefer to use for their relationships? Do you like any terms that are system specific?
If your inner world has a culture, or there are folks with exomemories of different cultures, do these cultures have different relationship standards than here? Are there different kinds of relationship types (ex- homestuck moirails) that are normative? Are there different expectations that certain relationships have? How do you navigate this in your relationships?
Do any of you identify as relationship anarchists? Why or why not? If so, do you think your relationship anarchy is affected/informed by your systemhood? If so, in what way?
Do any of you have petnames/titles for each other that only work in thoughtspeak? Can you describe them?
Have any of you ever been in a situation where each involved in-system party wanted different kinds of intense/notable relationships (ex- QPR vs FWB, romance vs platonic, etc)? How did that get resolved?

💞 Inworld Vs Outworld Relationships:

Has your system encountered conflicts or difficulties in in-system relationships that you haven't in out of system relationships? What about the reverse?
Do you feel the boundaries for what qualifies as a given relationship in-system are different than in an out of system relationship? How so?
Does anyone in your system consider their in system relationships more important than their outworld ones? On equal footing? Lesser? Why?
If any of you have a preference for in-system relationships over outworld ones, why is that? (Previous bad experiences, being aspec, difficulty explaining plurality, etc)
Does your system have/has your system in the past had a partner system or several? How did/does this work and what does the label mean to all of you? If you have never been in a relationship with another system like this, would any of you want to be?

❤️‍🔥 Sexual Specific:

What is your system's personal line between having sex with a system member vs masturbation vs fantasy? Do these lines differ between system members?
What things are involved with sex between system members for your system? Is it more physical body oriented? Mental/headspace focused? A mix of the two? Somthing else? Do different system members have different answers?
Can you experience pleasure/orgasm in headspace without the body and do you get anything out of it?
For systems that have had sex with other bodies, how does it compare to sex with those in your system in your opinion?
Does your system have to worry about protection/safer sex in headspace? What form does this pregnancy/STI protection take? (ex- ritual, magic spell, condom, pills, etc)

❥ Kink Specific:

Do any of you have any committed power exchange dynamic relationships (D/s, homestuck blackrom, miscelife mates, etc)?
Would any of you consider yourself to have a kink for any system specific experience? Would you be open to exploring system related phenomina as part of a kink dynamic (ex- being pushed out of front as part of a D/s scene)
Do any of you have kinks that other members consider squicks/triggers/hard nos? How do you navigate this?
Are there any headmates who have forms that are inherently kink related (ex a system member who identifies as a rubber dog, or a system member that is your littlespace self)? How do you all navigate this 'inherently nsfw' aspect?
Some people find kink therapeutic and transformative. Have any of you had luck using kink to reduce negative system experiences or trauma effects? If comfortable, could you elaborate on the methods you used?

💕 Romantic Specific:

Are any people in your system married? What did you do to consider this a marriage? What about this relationship is different from any other committed relationship in system?
Has one person in your system ever had a unreciprocated crush on another? How did your system navigate this?
For dating system members; how did you ask each other out? Was it just something you fell into or 'you understood' thought speak ended up at or was it something that was formally asked and discussed? Something else?
If you are not out as a system, how do you explain your relationship should the topic ever come up?

💟 QPR/Alterous Specific:

Do any of you have alterous relationships/QPRs in-system? What are the parameters of these relationships (ex- kissing/dating/sexual activity/cuddling/pet names/expected feelings/etc being part of it or not) and what do they mean for the people in them?
Are there different kinds of alterous/QPR relationships in your system? How do they differ from each other?
Do any of your alterous/QPR relationship's expected feelings or activities intersect with system phenomina at all? (ex- is a feature of your relationship co-fronting together?)
If your system has both alterous/QPR relationships and romantic relationships, what makes the alterous/QPR relationships of those in your system differ from any romantic relationships or friendships that exist in your system?

♡ Intense/Notable Platonic Relationship Specific:

If your system has strong platonic relationships, do any of you denote this as an important kind of relationship on the level of any other kind of partnership? Why or why not? Do you have a special word for this kind of relationship beyond friends/best friends?
Do any of you consider your platonic relationships of this nature to be famillial? Why or why not? Does your system consider the system relationship as a whole to be a family of some kind? Why or why not? If not a family, what would you consider the relationship of the system as a whole, if anything beyond 'a plural system'?
What kinds of intimacy are involved/would any of you want to be invovled in these platonic relationships (ex- living together, cuddling, raising kids together, sharing resources/money, hanging out together, etc)? Do these desires differ between you?
Is a part of these notable/intense platonic relationships something to do with system experiences? (ex- do you co-front together, are you capable of communicating or memory sharing easily when others in your system cannot, etc)
In notable/intense platonic relationships in your system, do you do things that others might construe as nonplatonic?

💖 Specific System Type or Phenomina Related:

How does your system navigate issues with any system members who have impaired judgment or consent who also experience attraction or desire? If you do not have any system members with this issue, what would you do if you did end up with a system member with this issue?
Have you accidentally formed a system member of someone who you fantasized about/had a crush on/dated/etc in a past life? How did you both handle it? Whats the situation with that relationship now?
If your system has roles or limited expressions that a system member is currently capable of, are there any system members whos roles/expressions are 'specialized' as sexual/romantic/kink/etc? How do you all navigate this and is your system/this system member trying to break out of this role? Why or why not?
If your system has fictives or fictionkin, how do said fictionfolk feel about others in the system consuming or making adult/romantic/kink focused fanworks of them? Is it part of your relationship to read/play/view/listen to it together? Does it feel like a 'scene' to them?
If your system has had system members die and come back/fuse/reformat/otherwise stop existing in a previous form and become something else, if they were previously in a relationship, how did their relationships change after?
If your system has amnesia for system experiences/may forget large chunks of system details for amnesia reasons, have you ever forgotten important details about your in-system relationships? How did the people involved navigate this?
Has anyone in your system adopted or had children with another system member? How did their relationship change as a result? Is the child/children a system member themselves or an 'NPC'? If you consider them an NPC, what makes them an NPC?
If anyone in your system has had in-system children, how is parentage handled? Are the bioparents sole parents, or do others in the system also consider themselves parents too?
People with relationships to factives or factkin in their system, do your feelings about the factive spill over to their real-life counterpart? If you interact with said real counterpart at all, how do you navigate that?
If your system is/has a gateway, do any of you have relationships with non-system entities in your otherworld? Are they aware of your plurality?
If your system is a median/less separate system or the system members who have a relationship are less separate, how do you navigate the relationship in relation to this? Is it a metaphor for self-love to you or something else?